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How to Resolve a Messy Divorce

You and your soon to be former spouse are at each other’s throats. How do you peacefully divorce? While a contested divorce is never easy, a contested divorce makes things worse. At the law office of Kearney Baker in Pasadena, we understand how difficult the divorce process can be mentally, emotionally, and psychologically for both parties involved and are here to provide suggestions on how to divorce as peacefully as possible for your own sake and for that of your loved ones. Call the office or contact us today to schedule a consultation of your California divorce with one of our experts now.

Mediation can Help Avoid a Messy Divorce

One of the most popular options for avoiding a messy divorce is through the use of divorce mediation. This form of alternative dispute resolution takes place outside the courthouse with the use of a neutral third party, known as a mediator. Each spouse retains his or her own attorney and works with the mediator to resolve outstanding issues. One major benefit to divorce mediation is that the spouses are separated in their own rooms, so direct communication is minimal.

See a Family Therapist

Another option to resolve animosity in the divorce process is through the use of a family therapist. This type of therapy can be utilized even if there are no children involved in the process, although a family therapist can be particularly beneficial if there are. Therapy provides a safe space for you to discuss your feelings and listen to any issues that your spouse is also having with the process. Open communication can often resolve differences and lead to a more peaceful process for both parties involved.

Approach All Issues with Logic

An important mindset to have when dealing with a messy divorce is to approach all issues with logic and not emotion. Getting emotional about an issue is what often leads to arguments, outbursts, and other communication that is not productive to the divorce process. By leaving emotion out of the decision making process in a divorce, you minimize the chances of an illogical argument with your spouse over something that in the end may not even be consequential.

Hire an Experienced Divorce Attorney

Finally, the most important thing that you can do to resolve a messy divorce is to hire an experienced California divorce attorney. A lawyer is able to remove him or herself from the emotion of a divorce case while keeping your best interests at heart throughout the process. An attorney can provide solid, logical legal advice on even the most emotional issues. Utilizing an experienced attorney often expedites the overall process of divorce, so your divorce will wrap up more quickly.

We can Help With Your Contested Divorce

If you would like to speak with an experienced California divorce attorney about your options for resolving your divorce as peacefully as possible, call the office or contact us today in Pasadena at Kearney Baker to schedule an evaluation of your case.

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